If
my life were to be made into a movie then the special effects budget would be
next to nothing. No explosions or car chases in this feature film. In fact, if
I were to play myself I would need to overact and I would probably forget most
of my own lines.
Friday, December 20, 2013
Sunday, November 10, 2013
11/11 - Impulsivity – A True Love Story
Call it spontaneity or call it impulsivity or even call it
serendipity, a sudden decision made on one November 11th changed my life forever.
I was in my late 20’s and my girlfriend and I decided to take a trip together
to Las Vegas to have some fun. We had been together at the time for just slightly
over a year, and although we were in a committed relationship, we had never
really discussed our future goals or plans and marriage had never even been
mentioned at all, by either one of us.
We arrived in Las Vegas from New Jersey on a Sunday in
November of 1998 and as expected we immediately began having a good time on our
trip. On our third day there, November 11, 1998 we had a spontaneous
conversation that I am sure that neither of us will ever forget. There was
nothing particularly special going on that day yet after a less than 5 minute
conversation that evening we decided to just get married right then and there. We were in
our street clothes and we bought the rings at a stand in the middle of the mall
for $20 just so we had something to use for the ceremony. Then we just picked a
chapel at our convenience and we got married, just like that. She wasn’t pregnant
or anything so there really was no underlying agenda, and were weren’t blackout
drunk or under the influence of any drugs either. It was just a spur of the
moment idea that we both decided to kind of just run with in the moment, which we did.
If you ask either of us, both of us will say that we did not
plan that to happen at the time as it was a truly spontaneous decision. Who
knows, maybe it was on both of our minds on a subconscious level but we’ll
never really know for sure. The next morning I can remember both of us looking
at one another trying to feel each other out to see if the other person had any
regrets without really coming out and asking. I had to call my mother from a
pay phone and tell her what we did which was a shock for her I am sure. We waited until we
got home to tell my wife’s parents if I remember correctly. Then, from there,
the vacation simply continued the way it would have as if nothing had happened, the only exception was that we were married.
So here it is 11/11/13, exactly 15 years (and five kids)
later: (It turns out we are pretty spontaneous about having kids as well) What
stands out to me is that, just like that first awkward “day after” when we woke
up feeling each other out about one another’s reactions to the sudden decision
to marry, neither of us has ever made any statement about regretting that day
or that decision. Instead, speaking from my own perspective, I have nothing but
appreciation, admiration, as well as enduring love for the wonderful
relationship and partnership with my beautiful wife that has grown from that unusually
special day 15 years ago. It truly was the best impulsive decision I have ever
made. I love you with all of my heart Marie, my beloved wife, happy 15th anniversary.
(photo by Marie Pecoraro)
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